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0:01 Hey there. I was just thinking about, you know, what's real for me right now is that I actually have to pee really bad and I'm going to do this Museletter first because this insight is so fresh that I want to actually share it while it's happening.
0:14 And then I will go to the bathroom. But first off, I just want to say this insight came from talking to one of my clients.
0:23 And I just love, love that being a coach, I am as likely to get insights from conversations as the clients are.
0:32 It's just one of those things that when we are in dialogue, true dialogue, where we're trying to get to the truth of things everyone gets wiser in the process and I just love that.
0:44 But what happened and what I realized in this moment was that we ended up reviewing a lot of our work together and so he was sharing some of the value he’d gotten.
0:54 Some of the insights and they're super helpful for me. And then I was sort of, I, we started talking a little bit about some things I'm thinking about for next year with my business and starting to do.
1:07 And you know, a couple of minutes in I was like, we have to schedule a separate call so I can just brainstorm with you. We have a history of brainstorming and working together that way.
1:17 And you know, we got off the call and I was like, duh, Miki, you need to be collaborating, right?
1:27 Like, I've been in this place for a couple of weeks of sort of reflecting on how the how the year has been and how my business has gone and what I've done and what I want to do more of and what I want to do less of.
1:34 And I have all these ideas for next year and I'm sort of sorting through them and that's an important process.
1:40 Self-reflection is important and sometimes you need that quiet space inside. But I was just reminded how much energy I, at least, get from conversation and, you know, brainstorming and bouncing ideas off of other people and getting their thoughts and and it's just so funny
2:01 Because that is something that I am reflecting back to my clients all the time, right? Is this, it's like this thing about our culture.
2:15 Or mine any way that I was raised in, in the Midwest, you know, white Western world of needing to do things by ourselves and that there is something somehow better about that.
2:28 Or it makes us smarter or more important if we don't need help from people. And do I need help?
2:38 Could I come up with these ideas and just make decisions on my own? Sure. Of course. But it's way less fun and I have plenty of experience to tell me that the ideas will never be as good as when I collaborate and bounce them off of other people.
2:56 And they won't serve as many people and I won't be able to talk about them as effectively, right? And so, you know, it's sort of like a dual insight I'm having here.
3:06 One is just purely around collaboration and how it's so deeply embedded, at least in my system, to try to do things by ourselves.
3:17 And when we feel like we're blocked to just push harder, right, rather than going, I need to go you know, I need to go get help.
3:25 I need to bring in others who I respect and who I like collaborating with. That and then yeah, and then also just like how funny it is that as many years as I have been doing this.
3:38 And as many businesses as I've started with my husband and in collaboration and that one of the best things I did this year was start to collaborate with another coach. Just how we are constantly forgetting things, right, that we know and having to be reminded of them.
3:55 And especially, you know, as the, coach, I think it's really easy to get into this place of like, well, I know what I'm doing, right, and I'm helping other people, which is never how I approach it, but it's, again, it's this archetype that we can fall into that is so not helpful.
4:14 All of us forget and need to be reminded again, no matter how long we've been doing this, or what muscles we've strengthened, or what training we've taken, or what seat we're sitting in, and the main way that we get reminded of those things that we know in our souls
4:29 that are true and wise are from other people, right? From being in true, honest, vulnerable dialogue with other people. Which is why I keep so many people close to me and try to be in dialogue with them as much as possible—including all of you.
4:50 So thank you for being here in whatever way you are and as always I would love to hear if any of this resonates or you have other thoughts or there's other things on your mind.
4:57 Hit me up. Thank you for watching.
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